Each one of us in inherently endowed with power. Don’t believe me? Just sit back and watch others as they engage in “office (or neighborhood) politics” and work to tear one another down. The reason that people attack one another is the need to appear more powerful. Don’t let this facade fool you. For you, the goal is to focus on yourself, your talents, and the greatness you inherently possess. It is not as easy as it sounds though. In the grand scheme of life it is hard to temper potential, politeness, human frailty, and the unpredictable nature of life. The best we can do is get out of our own way and accept the abundance of the universe.
Here are some ways to stop ourselves from disowning our power:
The view that the world is fair can trip you up. Even if you work to make the world a fair place, not everyone else shares your sentiment. In fact there are so many moving parts and pieces, it would be difficult to legislate fairness for all. You can, however, state your needs and assertively represent yourself in life.
Getting out of your own way. We are our own worst enemies. Self sabotage, anyone? But of course. The trick is to listen for those times you are causing problems for yourself when everything is fine. Do your best, call it good enough and move along. 😉 Yes, you might out do others around you (without malice) and that is okay. Your peers will have their day to outdo you!
Avoiding Discomfort and Conflict. As humans, we naturally avoid discomfort and conflict. After all, who wants to spend time being uncomfortable, fighting, and/or yelling when you can sit in peace and quiet? The thing is, sometimes we need to get uncomfortable and initiate conflict. If our needs are not being met or we are being painted in an unflattering light, it is our job to step up to the plate for ourselves. Don’t let the fear of conflict and discomfort prevent you from owning your power!
Confidence. Do you lack confidence in your ability to perform and/or problem solve. Maybe you feel unequal to the task at hand. Sometimes the lack of confidence is warranted, for instance, how many of us can become professional golfers? However, how many of us are good problem solvers, willing to try new things, and capable of making good decisions? I would imagine, almost everyone. Coming across as a confident person says something about you. The truth is, however, you will never control the curve balls life throws, but you will always find a way to arrive at an answer.
Refraining from Self Development. Life is a game of learning from start to finish. If you chose to stagnate, it is likely you will end up deflated and defeated. To own your power, skill upgrades are important. Each day of your life is an opportunity to learn more. Embrace the challenges of learning. A challenge for you: arrange your life into big topic areas (family, work, hobbies) and pick one or two to improve in!
Owning your power is a privilege afforded to all of us. Be who you are as you are. Know that no one is better than you. Ignore people who want to put you down and show the world your amazing one of a kind you!
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All the best!