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The Power of Shame

Shame is a great motivator.  Unfortunately, the motivation that comes from shame is usually negative.  Shame begins in childhood when caregivers work to motivate children’s behaviors.  As we grow, shame becomes a part of our self talk and a means that others can use to control us.   Instead of using shame, I think we should …

Side Stepping

The words “side stepping” can mean many things.  The words can also hold a negative or positive meaning.  In the context I am writing about, side stepping is a tool.  You see, as an empath, I have difficulty separating my feelings and emotions from the feelings and emotions of others.  There are times that I …

Self Care

Over the years, I have read many posts and articles on self care.  The most amusing articles poke fun at the standard “take a bubble bath” self care.  I have found self care to involve a wide range of activities.  By far, the most important aspect of self care is not overdoing it.  If you …

Veils

Sounds like wedding garb, I know.  One of the greatest barriers to change is clinging to veils.  So what exactly are veils?  Veils are the beliefs that hold us back from progress.  To go more in depth, rigid thinking causes veils.  Although always changing your mind is not a good idea, it is good to …

Can We Be Real?

When reading self help articles I often end up thinking, really?!  Maybe some people truly have surface issues that take only an attitude change to solve.  Most of the issues I have experienced personally and through others come from a combination of factors including: choosing the wrong people, not taking time out for him/herself, lack …

Weekends

As the weekend is upon us, I began to think about what weekends are for.  I suspect for many people, weekends are a time to catch up on sleep, housework, spending time with family and friends, and so on.  I try my best during the week to mix in a bit of everything because continuity …

When Abundance Arrives

I was seeking abundance for quite a while.  It was not until I focused on being grateful that the abundance I was looking for arrived.  Of course, the changes I was seeking were life changing and appreciated but they also left me off center.  It was hard to trust that some things were going to …

Resistance to Change

Every human being would prefer to stay as he or she is.  After all, change is difficult.  Change is similar to a complete makeover.  Just imagine, reorganizing your whole life on a regular basis and you will see why people who could most benefit from change resist it.  There are people who have learned that …

Starting Over

Many times in life we have to start over.  Whether a job or relationship ends or the plans we made did not work out.  The thing is, starting over can be a difficult and sometimes devastating process.  In many cases, we are grieving while in the process of starting over.  Memories from the past, moments …