Resistance to Change

When working with someone who can help you, your first instinct may be to pick apart and criticize.  You feel hurt and scared because success requires change. You set out to mold your educated helpers into something more palatable to you.  Unfortunately, foundational facts do not change.  Loving yourself is the key to success.  Love …

On Going for What You Want

To some extent, all of us want to get ahead and succeed.  We all have different beliefs on how to be successful.  Growing up, I received conflicting messages: be successful, but don’t outshine others.  After a while, I knew that to be successful, outshining others would be required.  From a big picture view, we all …

Taking Control Today

You have known for some time that your thoughts/feelings/beliefs do not match up to the choices you have been making and the way you live your day to day life.  You long for deeper connections and to live authentically from your center.  The question is how to change an entire life so you can be …

When Rewinding Doesn’t Help

In a previous blog post, I discussed reflection or rewinding as a means for gaining insight when an earlier event escalated beyond where it needed to.  You can find the rewinding post here.  But what happens when rewinding won’t help – you’ve run out of chances or the person you disagreed with is no longer …

Loneliness and Sensitivity

Everyone feels lonely from time to time.  However, sensitive people feel lonely more often.  The depth of loneliness for sensitive people can seem overwhelming.  Also, people who are not sensitive do not seem to understand how painful feeling lonely can be; which leaves sensitive people feeling misunderstood.  Once a sensitive person feels lonely and misunderstood …

Rolling with Overwhelm

  Life can be pretty overwhelming at times especially as an adult.  Add a job, spouse/partner, children, and/or a mortgage to the stress of day to day life and you have the perfect recipe for becoming overwhelmed.  I think it is fair to say that most of us experience overwhelm at least a few times …

Rewinding Events

Have you ever had a fight with someone and ended up confused and worn out emotionally after the fight?  You begin to plan your next move, even if you think/feel your next move could get you into another fight or worse?  If your instincts are telling you what you are about to do next is …

Values, Feelings, and Actions

Before learning how values and actions meet up, I never understood the importance of uncovering our values.  You see, values are the underlying principles that guide us in action and thought.  If you have a disagreement with another person or feel offended, it is likely that the disagreement occurred because one of your values were …