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What is Love

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about love.  Love between parents and children, spouses, friends, and so on.  What are the parameters that justify alienation of love and what can be expected of love?  I am a person who loves deeply and is loyal.  In my experience, loyalty and love can be used as …

The Power of Shame

Shame is a great motivator.  Unfortunately, the motivation that comes from shame is usually negative.  Shame begins in childhood when caregivers work to motivate children’s behaviors.  As we grow, shame becomes a part of our self talk and a means that others can use to control us.   Instead of using shame, I think we should …

Projection (/prəˈjekSH(ə)n/)

Projection.  Such an interesting word.  If you think about it, a projector takes a small image and projects the image on to the wall.  Oddly enough, toxic people also project.  Aggressive and other character disturbed individuals enjoy inflicting harm at the expense of chosen targets.  Projection is one tool of the aggressive individual.  We could …

Love – Loss and Starting Over

Probably one of the most haunting experiences in the life of a human is loss of love.  When we put our hearts on the line and get hurt in the end, we are left with feelings of sadness and betrayal and may find it difficult to open our hearts again.  In many cases, our childhood …

Resistance to Change

Every human being would prefer to stay as he or she is.  After all, change is difficult.  Change is similar to a complete makeover.  Just imagine, reorganizing your whole life on a regular basis and you will see why people who could most benefit from change resist it.  There are people who have learned that …

Starting Over

Many times in life we have to start over.  Whether a job or relationship ends or the plans we made did not work out.  The thing is, starting over can be a difficult and sometimes devastating process.  In many cases, we are grieving while in the process of starting over.  Memories from the past, moments …

Tips for Handling the Personality Disordered

  Knowing that personality disordered individuals have a win or lose mindset and see every interaction as a battle gives you the higher ground.  The personality disordered are fighting a battle when you are simply asking for detail or assistance.  While we are on the subject, actually working is not a thing narcissists like to …