An Ode to Social Norms

Social norms, the bane of existence, in my opinion.  Before I go too far into this topic, it is important to point to out that a character formed from principles, a high amount of self control, and the unwillingness to harm self or others is necessary before bucking social norms.  I also will say, I …

Big Picture Life View

Viewing life from the big picture, in my mind, offers great advantages.  Not only can you plan well and avoid mistakes, you can prevent life from becoming unnecessarily chaotic.  I am an introvert by nature.  As an introvert, I am an observer.  I also do not believe I know everything.  This unique set up makes …

Projection (/prəˈjekSH(ə)n/)

Projection.  Such an interesting word.  If you think about it, a projector takes a small image and projects the image on to the wall.  Oddly enough, toxic people also project.  Aggressive and other character disturbed individuals enjoy inflicting harm at the expense of chosen targets.  Projection is one tool of the aggressive individual.  We could …

Can We Be Real?

When reading self help articles I often end up thinking, really?!  Maybe some people truly have surface issues that take only an attitude change to solve.  Most of the issues I have experienced personally and through others come from a combination of factors including: choosing the wrong people, not taking time out for him/herself, lack …

Creative Outlets

Creative outlets offer the chance of expanding your mind, adding to your purpose, and finding satisfaction.  Your creativity allows you to explore life on your own terms.  There is something wonderful about exploring life without limits, the only rule being you do not harm yourself or others.  There are infinite ways to express your creative …

Search for Meaning

The search for meaning.  A topic most famously explored by Viktor Frankel and a theory I mistook for a lifeline in grad school.  In my early years I haphazardly ended up working in IT.  As programming languages and software applications came easily for me, IT work was a natural fit.  In the end, it was …

Love – Loss and Starting Over

Probably one of the most haunting experiences in the life of a human is loss of love.  When we put our hearts on the line and get hurt in the end, we are left with feelings of sadness and betrayal and may find it difficult to open our hearts again.  In many cases, our childhood …

Weekends

As the weekend is upon us, I began to think about what weekends are for.  I suspect for many people, weekends are a time to catch up on sleep, housework, spending time with family and friends, and so on.  I try my best during the week to mix in a bit of everything because continuity …

Loving Yourself

It can be hard to love ourselves.  We work and work to feel successful but others may not share our sense of accomplishment.  Once we decide that others think we are not good enough, we find ourselves on a slippery slope.  Doubt turns to fear and aggressive behavior.  As we continue down the hill, we …

When Abundance Arrives

I was seeking abundance for quite a while.  It was not until I focused on being grateful that the abundance I was looking for arrived.  Of course, the changes I was seeking were life changing and appreciated but they also left me off center.  It was hard to trust that some things were going to …